Random thought for the day... baby + relationship = bliss!
You know, improving my relationship with Dave was never a thought in my mind when we decided to try for a baby but... it has actually done just that!
Sure, we've had our ups and downs, and preparing for our entire lives to change has been stressful and difficult at times. But as my pregnancy progresses, and Dave becomes more invested in our new future - well, life is just blissful!
I feel the need to write this, although of course it's quite personal, because I know a lot of ladies out there have issues with their partners while pregnant. Many men are GREAT from the get-go - don't get me wrong! But some go through the very natural ups and downs of worrying about what a new baby will do to their lives and relationships - and sometimes they don't deal with it so well.
And Dave - like many - had some moments of being not-so-great with regard to handling my pregnancy, and at times I felt that maybe we should have waited, or that it was always going to strain our relationship.
But those days (and really, it was only a total of maybe 4 or 5 days over the whole pregnancy...) have passed and in the past month or six weeks we've been closer than ever.
He surprised and delighted me a few night's ago, by making some comment about something he was going to do for "our little boy". Now - to some reading this, those words may not seem so special. But Dave hasn't talked about him in words other than "the baby" or similar ever since I fell pregnant. Oh a few times he's talked about "I would never let my son...blah blah" or something similar. But saying "our little boy", and with such obvious love and excitement in his voice --- well, that meant the world to me and I loved him for it.
The other day I didn't put my seat belt on right away when we were heading somewhere and he admonished me by saying "you have to protect the little one honey!!!". Sheesh, just the little one? Not myself? LOL!
And I think now that my body is blooming, and - dare I say it - my boobs are expanding at a great rate, he is actually finding me more attractive than when I was in that middle stage of "she could be pregnant, or maybe she's just fat". He rubs my belly, and talks to the baby ("what are YOU doing in there? We're watching the Indy on TV. Maybe we'll take you there next year!"), and the other day he even bought the baby an outfit on Ebay (nike babysuit anyone?).
So yes --- being pregnant and having a baby CAN put pressure on the relationship - but if you pass those occasional tests with flying colours, then in the long run it can really bring you both together. I know the tough times aren't over yet, and that the first few months after baby arrives will be the REAL test of our relationship --- but I KNOW that the strength we've found over the past few months will carry us through that time.
Life is wonderful - love is great - and our future is nothing but exciting!
Just my random thoughts for the day......................................
Sure, we've had our ups and downs, and preparing for our entire lives to change has been stressful and difficult at times. But as my pregnancy progresses, and Dave becomes more invested in our new future - well, life is just blissful!
I feel the need to write this, although of course it's quite personal, because I know a lot of ladies out there have issues with their partners while pregnant. Many men are GREAT from the get-go - don't get me wrong! But some go through the very natural ups and downs of worrying about what a new baby will do to their lives and relationships - and sometimes they don't deal with it so well.
And Dave - like many - had some moments of being not-so-great with regard to handling my pregnancy, and at times I felt that maybe we should have waited, or that it was always going to strain our relationship.
But those days (and really, it was only a total of maybe 4 or 5 days over the whole pregnancy...) have passed and in the past month or six weeks we've been closer than ever.
He surprised and delighted me a few night's ago, by making some comment about something he was going to do for "our little boy". Now - to some reading this, those words may not seem so special. But Dave hasn't talked about him in words other than "the baby" or similar ever since I fell pregnant. Oh a few times he's talked about "I would never let my son...blah blah" or something similar. But saying "our little boy", and with such obvious love and excitement in his voice --- well, that meant the world to me and I loved him for it.
The other day I didn't put my seat belt on right away when we were heading somewhere and he admonished me by saying "you have to protect the little one honey!!!". Sheesh, just the little one? Not myself? LOL!
And I think now that my body is blooming, and - dare I say it - my boobs are expanding at a great rate, he is actually finding me more attractive than when I was in that middle stage of "she could be pregnant, or maybe she's just fat". He rubs my belly, and talks to the baby ("what are YOU doing in there? We're watching the Indy on TV. Maybe we'll take you there next year!"), and the other day he even bought the baby an outfit on Ebay (nike babysuit anyone?).
So yes --- being pregnant and having a baby CAN put pressure on the relationship - but if you pass those occasional tests with flying colours, then in the long run it can really bring you both together. I know the tough times aren't over yet, and that the first few months after baby arrives will be the REAL test of our relationship --- but I KNOW that the strength we've found over the past few months will carry us through that time.
Life is wonderful - love is great - and our future is nothing but exciting!
Just my random thoughts for the day......................................
posted by ~* Tracey *~ @ 11:23
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